Where Livvyjams been at

More flowers

Okay, I admit it. I’ve been bad. Real bad.

I haven’t posted a blog in almost a month and  a half, and to be honest, I’ve missed it. I’m actually a little embarrassed that there are no archives for July. But here’s why: I’ve been real busy, like. Trust me, this isn’t a brush-off. You know I’m committed to this thing we have going on, you and me. It’s just that for the first time ever, I’m actually seeing one of my personal projects through, and that means there’s less time for blogging. I thought I could manage both, but it turns out that one needs to outperform the other, and it’s apparently best if the distraction doesn’t win this round.

Saying that, I hope I’m not jinxing it by talking about something that’s not finished yet. But we’re far enough along that it’s unlikely to be abandoned, so I think I’m allowed to be excited.

The project? It’s a series of webisodes. The scripts are written, which took forever. We’ve had auditions. We’re almost completely cast. And in September, if all goes well, shooting begins. Naturally, I have to use this blog to talk about this project as it progresses. It would be stupid not to. So stay tuned…

Otherwise, many other things have been keeping me busy. I’m a bit reluctant to share extremely private information here, but then, most of those who read me are friends (by the way: thanks), so I suppose it’s okay to talk about it.

I’m getting hitched. Very soon. In less than a month. And planning a wedding, even a small one, is something only crazy people would undertake willingly if they actually knew, in advance, what it entails. Maybe you’ve thought about it your whole life, which is fair enough. But I can guarantee you’re not prepared for the wedding vortex, which is made up of a plausible infinity of details you thought you were too cool to care about…until you realize you’re just as vain as everyone else. All I know is I thought I was the “hip” bride who just wanted things simple and clean, but once flowers were introduced to the equation, I suddenly became very concerned with how it would all come together. And before you know it, I’m going through 3 florists just to get it right.

In all this, I’m still freelancing when wedding plans and webisodes aren’t conquering my schedule. I wouldn’t call the state I’m in auto-pilot. It’s more like “constant-pilot,” and I fuel up at some gas station in the sky.

Despite the serious time shortage, I’ve been able to take in a few noteworthy things. And they’re as follows.

  1. The ceremony is not sacred.
  2. The marriage is.
  3. Marrying someone is like inheriting a new family, and that’s exciting. The married couple also becomes a new family onto themselves, and it’s great to share that little bubble with someone. I won’t lie.
  4. You don’t need to be get married to experience “the bubble.” In fact, people should recognize it out of wedlock more often.
  5. There are a good many things that go into a wedding, and almost none of them really mean that your partner loves you. Not the ring, not the venue, not the limo, not the boutonnière, and definitely not the cake. The only real thing is what you know you and your partner share. The rest is just a party.


In completely unrelated news, I’ve posted a second blog on the new Lomography site, and it prompted me to experiment with my new Diana camera. It doesn’t give the same sort of results as my beloved Holga, but it’s interesting just the same. The above picture is from my first roll. It may not be the best photo I’ve ever taken, but I can’t wait to keep experimenting. I have more fun trying than perfecting. Is that wrong?


  1. I tend to think that we undervalue ritual in modern/postmodern culture. A good wedding ceremony should, in my opinion, be “sacred” to both partners. For a thing to be sacred, it needs to be viewed as a time or space set apart for a defining or transforming purpose.

    The forms and structures of that sacred moment will vary, but the intent of ritual is to provide a defining moment that either shifts or affirms a state of being outside of that moment. As such, the ritual needs to be suffused with meaning that is mutually affirmed by the individuals participating.

    As you point out, pretty much none of the trappings of the modern wedding industry do this. What does it is being careful not to be sucked in to the irrelevant stuff, and focusing on making the ceremony something that articulates the significance of what you and your partner share.

    Then, you have a great party.

    1. I have to agree with everything you’ve said. Nothing to argue with really.

      But I guess it means I should clarify what I meant by “sacred” just there. The wedding ceremony itself represents something that’s very sacred, and to the both of us. But for me, it didn’t mean that I was entitled to monstrous behaviour. I don’t feel like my bridesmaids owed me anything. I’m not crazy about the ring thing. In all, I didn’t feel I needed to observe certain traditions to share something beautiful with my partner. I guess what you’re saying is that makes it sacred too, and there’s really nothing wrong with that. 🙂

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